Emotional Wellness

Ultimate emotional wellness comes when you have realised that emotions are not who you are.  You are the consciousness, the awareness, the space in which emotions come and go.  If there is anger, you are the one that knows it is there, if there is fear, you are the one that knows it is their.

Believing that you are your emotions gives them strength and power over you.  This means that whenever an emotion arises, it completely takes over you, acts through you and speaks through you.

The pages here aim to help free you from bondage to your own emotions.  When you are free, emotion may still arise, but it does not take you over, it does not become mistaken for who you are.

No Need To Fight Your Own Emotions

To become free from your own emotions, a certain state of alertness and surrender is required.  Emotional wellness can not come through resisting your emotions, as this will keep them in place.

Notice how emotions and emotional reactions to things arise all by themselves, with no choice on your part.  Just noticing this can break your identification with them.  You can not stop them from arising, and it is very difficult to instantly stop them arising.

All you can do is surrender to them.  As they arise, let them be.  Through your non-resistance and non-judgement, they immediately have less control over you, less strength. 

Your awareness of them transmutes them into increased awareness. A simple watching from within is all that is required.  You could also call it a simple awareness, or nonjudgmental feeling of the emotion. 

You are the awareness behind any emotion, silently observing any emotions (or thoughts) that arise.

A genuine acceptance of emotion, however painful, is actually a very effective method of emotional healing.  Paradoxically, this acceptance or even welcoming of a painful emotion can completely take away the power of the pain, and leave you in an increased state of inner peace and emotional wellness.

…This acceptance does not involve feeding or getting involved with the emotion.  Instead, through your acceptance you offer no resistance to the present moment and instantly become more peaceful.  there is a distinction between you and the emotion through this awareness. 

The energy of acceptance is opposite to the resistive energy of a painful emotion, and means that a painful emotion can not survive for long within it.  Another name for painful emotional energy is pain body.

Remain present and do not give your emotions the authority that they do not deserve.  They do not matter.  They have nothing to do with you or who you are.  Remain with this attitude, and they will lose power over you and will lose strength within you. 

Undisturbed: A Guide To Emotional Wellness Introduction

The aim is not to stop feeling emotions. Let all emotions come. This book aims to show that emotions are not wrong or bad, and need not be clung to or given such great importance.

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Dealing With The Pain Body At Work

Question:

"When my pain body tries to get a reaction and I don't respond, I then get this intense heat in the body and I sweat a lot.

But I am now realising how odd it is, and I don't believe in it as much as I used to. Then I'm the observer of it. Then the heat/sweating stops almost immediately.

But what does it mean? To me, I think it's as if the pain body is trying whatever it can to get an "explosive" reaction and it's not.

But, why intense heat?"

Read the response here...

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